Envy and Giftedness: Are We Underestimating the Effects of Envy?

A taboo topic?

I have been to several conferences and read many books on giftedness, but one subject that is little discussed is the social/emotional effects on gifted children of being envied. It’s as if we are hoping that by not talking about it, it will go away, and we will not run the risk of being accused of bragging.

Advanced Squelching

A few months ago, I was struck by the candor and self-awareness of Joyce Slaton in her blog post, “I hate hearing about your gifted child.” She said, in part:

I get it that the moms are proud, and certainly, I don’t mind hearing about the kids’ other wonderful accomplishments. It’s the gifted thing that gets me… But why am I comparing? Why do I care? Normal is a good thing! Normal is great! Normal is what I prayed for. But that’s a lie. I didn’t. I prayed for better than normal. I wanted the Amazing Super Child who was going to prove to the world how 5-star my DNA is (believe me, typing that out, I realize how stupid that sounds). Maybe that’s why I feel like crap when a mom I know brags about the advanced-aheadedness of her kid. Do the braggers even notice that I fall silent and get downcast, listening? I try not to let it show. I know the moms are just excited and proud, and maybe I’d feel the same way if I had a lot of stuff to brag about.

Her post generated over 400 comments! Clearly, there are many parents who feel the same way. There were also many comments from parents of gifted kids who felt that they were being unfairly accused of bragging.


Envy mediates self-interest and group interests in social groups

What I want to focus on first are Joyce’s questions: “Why am I comparing? Why do I care?” To answer that, we should first ask, “Why do humans feel envy?”

“Envy can be defined as feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that arise when our personal qualities, possessions, or achievements do not measure up to those of someone significant to us.” (Salovey & Rodin, 1985; Silver & Sabini, 1978a)

Envy has both positive and negative aspects. In the positive form, we admire the object of our envy and seek to emulate that person. It’s the negative aspect that we consider socially unacceptable: we seek to steal or destroy the object of our envy.There’s also evidence that envy plays a greater role in our reactions than we’re consciously aware of. The stronger and more negative the envy, the more likely our awareness of it is to be suppressed. Silver and Sabini (1978b) pointed out that

Since an attribution of envy presupposes that the individual has been diminished or at least that he perceives this to be the case, to be seen as envious is doubly damaging. Not only have we committed a “sin,” but we have tacitly acknowledged our inferiority. Considering this, people usually find it very difficult to admit that they envy someone else.

What I’ve read about envy mostly considers it the result of individual self-interest. Salovey and Rodin (1984) proposed three eliciting conditions of envy:

  • Negative or esteem diminishing information about oneself with regard to another person
  • High self-relevance of that information
  • High similarity to or close relationship with the reference person.

I propose that envy also serves the function of mediating individual interests (resources, status, self-esteem) and group interests (sharing, stable social hierarchy). The basis for envy is the social principle of fairness. We see this principle in other primates. In primate social groups, if one individual takes more than his share, the others become envious. That individual is seen as committing a social transgression, and is challenged by the group or by more dominant individuals. In this way, envy maintains resource sharing among individuals in social species.

Envy also maintains a stable social hierarchy in the group because it is moderated by social status. Envy is held in check when the individual who has more resources also has greater status and can defend that status. In other words, if a weaker individual couldn’t challenge the stronger one in a test of dominance, then the weaker individual’s envy must be suppressed. This is also observed in humans who experience more intense envy of people they are in direct competition with than they do toward people they see as being much higher status (e.g. admired movie stars).

On the other hand, envy is given free rein when the group perceives that an individual has more than his share of resources than his status would merit. Because of this, individuals who experience envy automatically seek to justify their feelings with the rest of the group. They rationalize their responses by attributing social transgressions to the envied person. In this way, envy helps individuals transform their own interests into group interests. The rationalization process also serves to cover up the individual’s self-interested goals, and may even conceal it from his own conscious knowledge. This is more likely to occur when the envy is intense.

Outliers inspire envy

Envy occurs whether or not it is “justified”. We may envy someone for taking more than his share of resources (a behavior over which he has control), but we also envy someone for being more beautiful or intelligent than we are (things the envied person doesn’t control). In the case of beauty or intelligence, if a person is much more beautiful or much smarter than everyone else in the group, that person will be in the position of always defending their right to that higher level of status, and of constantly being envied by those in competition with them. The group may work together to undermine the status of the envied person, and make things more “equal”. As James Fenimore Cooper said, “The tendency of democracies is, in all things, to mediocrity.”


In order to understand interactions like what we see on Slaton’s blog, the key is that when people experience envy, they automatically generate rationalizations to justify the actions they want to take, and to seek support from other group members. Sometimes these rationalizations are logical and support the group interests of resource sharing, for example, “It’s not fair for John Doe to take more water for his farm just because he lives upstream.” Sometimes they are fabrications that other group members recognize as false, and are considered socially unacceptable expressions of envy. But they can also be fabrications that the group accepts because they are expedient justifications for actions that are seen as being in the best interests of the group.

Envy can reinforce stereotypes

The latter case is more likely to occur when the person who is envied has an outlier trait that cannot be shared with the group and that is seen as serving the envied individual’s interest alone. In Slaton’s blog, the trait in question is having a gifted child. The parent of the gifted child cannot share the child’s intellectual gifts with the other parents’ children. Those who envy the parent of the gifted child tend to immediately attribute their negative feelings (actually generated by the envy) to some social transgression on the part of the envied parent. In this case, the charge is “bragging”. This makes sense, because any discussion of the gifted child’s abilities makes their envy salient, and they naturally want to avoid that emotional discomfort. Parents are not only defending their own self-concepts as good parents and intelligent people, but even more vitally, they are defending their own good opinion of their offspring. Slaton’s blog is again an excellent example of this mechanism because she goes on to talk about what she values in her own daughter: kindness and being thoughtful of others.

Meeting the Principal

In fact, even if the parents of gifted kids say nothing about their children’s abilities, they are still often perceived as committing some social transgression. The list of these transgressions corresponds very closely to the negative stereotypes of gifted people:

Negative stereotypes of the gifted

  • Bragging
  • Showing off
  • Being a snob
  • Aloofness
  • Evil genius
  • Disrespectful of authority

 Social transgressions that parents of gifted kids are often accused of

  • Bragging
  • Showing off
  • Feeling superior
  • Cheating
  • Mistreating their children by pushing them academically

These accusations of social transgressions serve the purpose of reducing the salience of the envy (If parents of gifted kids are not allowed to talk about their kids, then I won’t feel envious) or denying that the children are actually gifted (If the parents are cheating and helping kids with work, or pushing their children inhumanely to produce high achievers, then the children are not really gifted.) They also serve the purpose of reducing the status of parents of gifted children by making them appear to be bad parents or selfish people. In some cases, this extends to justifying social exclusion or outright bullying of gifted children and their families.

Showing Off

“But wait!” you say. “When they talk about what their gifted kids can do, they really are bragging!” Now we come to what impressed me so much about Slaton’s blog post: she recognizes that if she were in the position of having a gifted child, she would want to talk about her child’s abilities, too. As parents, we are not given a manual on how to raise our children. We have to make choices without knowing how things will turn out. We all know it’s impossible to follow all the advice out there on child rearing, so we seek feedback and reassurance from other parents. Are we doing a good job? Are our kids developmentally on track? Ordinarily, this works pretty well. Most people’s kids are developmentally similar, but when a child is gifted, it becomes socially unacceptable for her parents to talk about her developmental trajectory. Here is an example of a normal scenario leading to envy and charges of bragging or pushing.

Scenario: Two moms, Abby and Betty, are sitting on a bench at the park. Abby introduces herself to Betty and starts asking about Betty’s child.

Abby: Is that your daughter in the green over there? How old is she?

Betty: She’s two.

Abby: Oh! (feeling uncomfortable) I saw her reading that sign…

Betty: (feeling uncomfortable) Is that your daughter on the slide?

Abby: Yes. She’s four. She isn’t reading yet. I don’t believe in that flashcard stuff. Kids should be allowed to be kids.

Notice that Betty has few choices in this exchange that could lead to a good outcome. She can let the assumption stand that she drills her child for hours with flashcards every day and doesn’t allow her to “be a kid” (despite the evidence that she does take her to parks), or she can deny using the flashcards and say truthfully that her daughter learned to read spontaneously which will lead to Abby perceiving her as bragging. Also note that neither Abby nor Betty is feeling good about this interaction. The usual script has failed them both, and neither is getting a feeling of support from the other.

One thing Betty might try to do is find a way to deny being in an enviable position. She might say, “Well, if only I could get her to stop pooping her pants.” Or, “I am looking forward to when she is four. She still won’t sleep in her own bed.” This tactic may soothe Abby’s feelings, but it comes at a price: Betty is forced to think of her own child in a negative light, and to express negative feelings about her child in front of the child. If this happens occasionally, it probably doesn’t have much impact, but the since Betty’s daughter’s abilities are rare, Betty will have to use this approach much more often than other parents.

Envy affects the social development of gifted kids

During infancy and early childhood, in highly gifted children, giftedness may already be apparent due to precocious development of speech, reading, and/or math abilities. Gifted children may also have other behavioral differences such as high levels of activity and alertness that make parenting a challenge. The child’s precocious abilities create conflict within the larger social context which is an obstacle to the development of a realistic self-concept and trust in adults. Parents of gifted children report feeling uncomfortable about mentioning their children’s abilities in front of other parents. Other adults may react strangely toward the gifted child, for example, a two year old reading labels aloud in the supermarket may attract attention. This attention is sometimes positive (Wow! How old is he? He can read already? What a smart boy!) but sometimes negative (How can you do that to your child! You should let her be a child, not force her to practice reading all day!) Unfortunately, even the positive response does not promote a healthy self-concept because when a child’s abilities are always called out, the child concludes that these are the most important aspects of his self, and perhaps the only facet of himself that is valued. The negative responses (which are often delivered with a judgmental, angry demeanor) are also damaging to the parent/child relationship, and to a child’s trust of other adults.

Highly gifted children whose abilities are very out of the ordinary can inspire shocking displays of envy in adults. One young boy, who learned to read before he was three years old, was granted early entrance to Kindergarten at age four. When the time came for the cute little “graduation” ceremony in the spring, a parent objected to his participation saying that he was not really in Kindergarten because he was too young, and that allowing him to “graduate” Kindergarten would be cheating because he had not achieved everything that his own son had achieved. I put quotes around “graduate” because in that state, Kindergarten is not legally required and there are no standards for such a graduation. Here, the gifted student’s family was accused of a (fabricated) social transgression, and the other parent successfully recruited allies on the school staff and convinced them to exclude the boy from the end of year party.

Top Dog

Middle childhood, or the grade school period, marks the child’s first friendship experiences with other children. Unfortunately for gifted children, most of their exposure to other children happens in the context of school. In the school context, competition and comparisons between the abilities of the children are more prominent than during ordinary play interactions. Age-based segregation in grades contributes to these comparisons because all children in a given age group are expected to meet certain standards. Students are aware of each other’s grades and performance in school, and high achievers are often the targets of bullying. It is likely that this bullying is the result of envy. Bullies seek to reduce the status of their targets by physically dominating them or by undermining them socially.

The gifted child also must navigate relationships with teachers. Unfortunately, teachers are not immune to envy, and this creates conflict that the gifted child is forced to resolve. We would predict that teachers’ envy would manifest itself as the perception of the gifted child as socially transgressing, and research bears this out. (Geake & Gross, 2008) Although the teachers did not directly report feelings of envy, they reported fears that the gifted child would undermine the teacher’s authority (the teachers’ anxiety seems to center on fears that the gifted child is subversive and not pro-social). Gifted children who know more about some topics than the teacher can be threatening to the teacher. Young gifted children may not realize this and helpfully correct the teacher in front of the class, undermining the teacher’s status.

Ruining the Curve

This research also shows that teachers may have unconscious negative responses to gifted children in their classrooms. An envious teacher’s behavior toward the gifted child sends subtle signals to the other children that the gifted child is a threat and should be ostracized. The gifted child also receives this message and feels rejected. Envious teachers can also unconsciously undermine the gifted child by attacking his self confidence through criticism or by constantly testing him. This creates anxiety in the gifted child and promotes the conditions for unhealthy perfectionism and underachievement.

Some teachers may be concerned about protecting gifted students from the envy of others. I often see educators recommending that gifted students not be grade accelerated because they will face “social problems”. Gifted programs in schools often include differentiated instruction. This sounds like a good idea in theory, but in practice it is rarely well-executed. Concerns about envy may play a large role in the teacher’s reluctance to give different work to the gifted students in their classes, and the reluctance of some gifted students to be seen doing different work.

Feeling Bad

Sometimes, teachers avoid differentiation because they want to spare other students from feelings of envy. In one anecdotal example, when a gifted 5th grade girl in a 5th/6th combo class (where she had been placed so she could work at her own pace) finished the 5th grade math book in a few months and asked to move on to the 6th grade math book, the teacher told her that she couldn’t do that because “the 6th grade boys would feel bad.” Not only did this teacher deny the gifted student an opportunity to learn, she also sent the student the tacit message that her giftedness “makes others feel bad” and should be hidden.

Gifted children, who are often sensitive and perceptive, respond in various ways to these mixed messages about whether their intelligence and achievements are good things or not. Some of them withdraw and stop exhibiting gifted behaviors. They underachieve in school and intentionally withhold what they know from the teacher. Some of them act out in frustration at their rejection by the group, and some reject the group in turn. When the teacher’s envy is a problem, the gifted student is in a no-win situation. If he hangs back and doesn’t participate, he is seen as aloof or uncooperative. If he participates enthusiastically, he is seen as a show-off. Some carefully balance on a narrow middle path of acting as average as possible, and denying their true selves.

Singled Out

The responses of others to the gifted child set him up for increased anxiety and sensitivity. Being excluded from the group creates anxiety, and increased anxiety can lead to psychomotor agitation, emotional lability, and/or withdrawal. Many of these behavioral responses correspond with overexcitabilities observed in gifted students. The constant vigilance required to carefully navigate around the envy triggers of others can contribute to increased sensitivity. In this way, I think anxiety over exclusion from the group contributes to the observed intensity and sensitivity of gifted students. The increased anxiety and sensitivity are in turn interpreted as social defects inherent in the gifted child, and unfortunately, envious adults can unwittingly reinforce these behavior patterns because they are eager to find fault with the gifted child. Even parents can overemphasize these difficulties in their own children in their attempts to convince others that their children are not in an enviable position.

Adolescence is a period of increasing competition and increased attention to differences as teens build their identities. (Massé& Gagné, 2002) The interactions increase in complexity as teens practice imagining the mental states of others. They assume that downward comparisons should lead to reassurance and pride, and therefore interpret the gifted teens as prideful and snobbish. Meanwhile, the gifted teens are faced with stereotype threat, “Gifted kids think they’re better,” and are forced to cope with it by denying the stereotype and working hard not to confirm it (Steele, 1997). Teachers in middle and high school may have reactions to gifted students similar to those of grade school teachers: unconscious negative affect. They may single out the gifted student, modeling exclusion for the other students. Gifted teens are faced with a choice: deny the self to gain acceptance of the group or preserve their gifted identity and face exclusion.

The problem of dealing with other people’s envy is one of the central problems of gifted development. This is why gifted programs are so important for gifted kids; they need to be in an environment where the teachers expect to teach gifted students and welcome them, and where the discrepancies between the students’ abilities and their age-peers are not so dramatic so that competition and comparison generate less envy. It is not because they can’t make friends with non-gifted kids, or because gifted people are elitist. Like everyone else, they need a social group where they can feel accepted as they are, and where they can receive positive feedback for their achievements.


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Thanks to Margo Burns and Nina Paley for creating Comic-O-Matic, which I used to create the images in this piece.

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103 Responses to Envy and Giftedness: Are We Underestimating the Effects of Envy?

  1. J. Tuckett says:

    This is so true. My son skipped 3rd Grade, but that didn’t alleviate any hardships that he had felt before the skip. One of his best friends became obsessed with looking at my son’s grades every time the teacher passed back the tests, and started ignoring him because she could never get a higher grade than he. My son wrote a little book to show his teacher, and one of his classmates attempted to write a story as well, but he broke down one day, yelling that he could never make anything better than my son. I’m really not trying to brag, I’m just glad that other people understand that giftedness isn’t just a bowl of cherries.

  2. Kathy Willaims says:

    Oh my God. This is my son’s experience. The first time I realized a teacher was envious of him was in second grade. Second grade! He is very musically talented and his second grade music teacher did everything she could to stand in his way. I was confused by her obvious attempts to undermine him and even had a meeting with her where I said “you know he’s only 7.” But then there kept being other instances where it seemed teachers were envious. At first I had trouble believing that adults could actually be envious of a little boy. It is so sad because I imagined that teachers would be role models because he was always so eager to learn, but then it seemed teachers didn’t like him because he knew too much. He starts high school next year and I so hope it will be different…..

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  4. Julie Creech says:

    Wow! Thank you so much for this essay. I started reading this as the parent of a gifted child but by the middle I found that it was perhaps even more profound for me to think about these things in terms of my own experience as a gifted child. It was difficult to go down those lanes of memory to places I prefer to leave alone but by naming the envy that was likely at the root of much of my exclusion and bullying it becomes a little bit easier to believe that it wasn’t something wrong with me that caused my experience. This was a powerful post for me!

  5. Clyde says:

    As someone who is gifted I have nothing to brag about, when people find out about my IQ they immediately think “OMG you’re so lucky because you’re super smart” but I think a high IQ is portrayed badly. Almost seen as something to be ashamed of because you can’t talk about it and not be seen as bragging. But what they dont realise is for 5 years straight I thew up from crying so much, I was always feverish from a lowered immune system, Only slept 4 nights a week and cried myself to sleep every other all because of school. It was really tough for me, I was verbally and physically bullied even one stage a kid had punched me so in the rib and I had to get X-rays because he nearly fractured it! We changed schools etc nothing worked, they gave us empty promises. They told my parents how they were trying to help and how they are trying new things with me but behind closed doors they gave me the lowest level math for my grade and had lots of meetings with me trying to convince me to tell my parents I was happy at school even though I clearly wasnt, the teachers put me down big time telling me I should act my age etc When my parents learnt this was happening we got a medical certificate to say I didn’t have to go to school due to the depression, stress levels and fevers etc and now Im homeschooled and I can barely drive near a school and look at it. But many years later I am ‘lucky’ to most, I am an amazing talented artist who is lucky to have such a gift but little do they know how hard I worked to get there, all the suffering I went through and what I would have given to have a normal education and not to be bullied, so if you ever meet a gifted child like me and we “brag” about the amazing things we have accomplished, dont judge quickly and guess I had always had an amazing life just because Im faking a smile for you, you never know someones backstory and why they may be “bragging”. (Surely not every gifted child is like me but I know many others who have similar stories with school troubles)

  6. Brian says:

    I have struggled with problem for most of my life. This is the first time in my life. I’ve admitted that I have felt and have been ostracized by peers for being gifted. I am by far and away more talented at the guitar that it was intended to be. I am truly admitting today that I am a gifted musician. I mastered three saxaphones by age 11. I can sight read music which means I can play an entire score without ever hearing it once. I was in a symphonic band in school. We played very complex movie scores, symphonic music.

    Over the last couple years I have really felt the pain of being gifted. I see people and come home and write dozens of new songs with great lyrics, challenging music.

    Frank Zappa would have gotten along with me if he had like the limitations of Rock.

    He and I did not play the same music, but I could sit down a write a rock symphony and really start to feel great.

    Eddie Van Halen a genius. Randy Rhoads is a genius. I am gifted at numbers instruments, vocals, hit type rock songs.

    Today. Whenever I tell women about my success, the green eyed monster of jealousy rears its ugly head.

    When I tell them about my new band. They put me down, they cannot control their rage. They become envious.

    Are they thinking clearly. Do you know how much commitment was required to earn your degree?

    I was climbing Mt. Everst. It was daunting, lonely, sad, hard to do, creating insomnia. I starved with little food. Why would they be so envious of pain and suffering?

    Yes I realize now that women and some men have ostracized me from sheer jealousy of my gift in music and lyric writing.

    I only hope that God can heal my soul.

    I worked so hard at this.

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  10. A very good article. Another problem that gifted students can have is being overloaded with too many extracurricular activities and always being asked to represent the school, which may involve missing other lessons and having to catch up. This benefits the school but not necessarily the student.

  11. Paula says:

    My sons school started to deny him reading books after just a few weeks. He was in reception class. I went to see the teacher and she explained that he was not allowed to progress to the next level so I pressed for an explanation. It was because “There’s a boy in the year above on the gifted & talented register who is struggling with that level”

    Some time later, maybe around age 7, his reading level was much higher than his classmates so I asked if he could obtain some books from the Year 6 class library (he must have been in year 3 at the time) This was not permitted as it would be unfair on the Y6 pupils!

  12. Nicolette Ladoulis says:

    I really appreciated this article. Thank you for treating this and the violence with seriousness. I’ve had it bookmarked for a while and keep rereading it for reassurance. Self-deprecation (auto-dérision) and humor strategies don’t work in all cultures and general lack of understanding had very serious consequences to my son and me and our family. Less intelligent tend to overexaggerate abilities ( Dunning-Kruger) and they don’t “get” the required modesty others are burdened to adopt in order to coexist on this planet with them. Very little research to combat violence is being done. It’s shocking. It seems more research and programs about controlling envy is needed- focusing on empathy is only reaching the already empathetic.

  13. Jennifer says:

    Thank you for this article, it was very helpful! I suspect that envy has caused and still causes problems for me at work with co-workers and bosses who feel threatened. I feel like I have to downplay my abilities and achievements . Of course, I was also bullied in school.
    It really bothers me that I apparently have to manage others’ emotions.

  14. CW says:

    I work with gifted students and I see this all the time. It was also not hard to see this behaviour growing up. A lot of teachers, counselors, and even the principal are not gifted themselves, and do not want to believe that differences in intelligence exists. On average, teachers, especially at the elementary level are not exactly the smartest of the bunch(proven over and over again via scores) and are not aware of their own animalistic juvenile behavior towards people who are outliers. There are good teachers out there, but they are far and few. There are even some parents who are jealous of their own children and pick on them. It’s so sad because these are KIDS who are being targeted, kids who are sensitive and kind, but haven’t developed emotionally just like any other kid and can really get hurt by this bullying. These are kids who really have the ability to keep society going forward. One of my students told me his teacher was singling him out, erasing scores on his test, and trying to get him kicked out of his gifted program. Perhaps we should only allow the gifted to teach other gifted because they truly will understand one another. Non gifted folks will get offended at harmless questions and worse, try to force those kids to be “normal”…. that’s just one of many things these kids have to deal with, quite possibly all of their lives. Parents, please stick by your kids. Intelligence can only flourish if you foster it, like fostering a kid with great athletic ability. They will only succeed if you help them to. Watch out for them. Have their back. Try to get them into gifted programs.

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